Why Am I Not Thinking about Sex?

There is a frightening trend going on in many of the marriages and severe relationships of today– no sex. Really … what they ought to say is that the sex can genuinely lessen after having children and being taken in with the stress factors of raising them, feeding them, and education them!

I mean who truly has the energy or the gumption to look attractive, feel attractive, and much better yet have sex! Kids are a lot of work.

Well, if you wish to reside in truth – eventually you need to address this lack-of-sex topic in your marriage. Married folks make love, and need to enjoy it, and hopefully desire it on at least a semi-regular basis. We require it.

So why are numerous people not handling this topic like we would our financial resources, our careers, our children? Why are we preventing it? Well, due to the fact that even in today’s contemporary society, sex is still a really unpleasant topic for us to talk about with our children, our buddies, and our partners.

We like a great romance book, or romantic comedy motion picture. Well, in lots of cases we feel that we are the source of the problem, however we are puzzled or frightened to admit it and deal with it.

If this seems like you and your marriage– there may be a few concrete methods you can address what needs to be a agonizing and very difficult subject for you and your partner. Let’s get back to intimacy.

– if you have a reduced desire for sex, go see your physician and inspect yourself out. Make sure it isn’t a physical problem.

There are some females who have always experienced uneasy or even painful sex during intercourse however never ever addressed it. Perhaps you think that certain positions are just not suggested for you, but it may be that you have a physical problem that has an option. Just specified – if you can’t get excited or are unpleasant, even after a round of foreplay, there may be something physical going on. Check it out with your gynecologist.

Second – If you have a look at all right, and there is absolutely nothing physically incorrect with your partner, then you can presume that the issue is probably something mental/emotional in nature.

Are you tired? Psychologically exhausted? Fed up with him? Is he still attractive to you or is he just a warm body? Do you feel unattractive? Do you think he feels you are unsightly? Have either of you cheated in the past – and learn about it? Is sex boring– A ritualistic rut?

It’s a big myth that sex is not an important part of a relationship. Physical intimacy with your partner is extremely essential for the health of your relationship.

If you are dating, you NEED TO be sexually attracted to the individual. If you are not, you may deal with serious problems in the future.:-RRB-.

If you are married, sex may not feel like it did the first time with him, however it should be pleasing and desired by both of you. Low feelings of desire?

1. Pinpoint your sources of tension. Compose them down. Number them. Get a list. What is causing you the most worry? Financial resources? Intimacy? Kids? Illness? Household?

If your kids are worrying you out. Employ a sitter; go out on a date with your mate, and at the end of the night attempt to start intimacy.

3. Continue to deal with trimming your list while you keep up with your.
date nights and so on

4. Find things to minimize your overall stress levels. Activities such as checking out a book, yoga, walking/running, taking up an old hobby, dancing to your favorite music on your Ipod, etc

. Reducing your total stress is a great way to promote relaxation during times of intimacy. Sometimes we put excellent amounts of “performance pressure” on ourselves and unintentionally sabotage our performance. Plus– happy people have more sex! Well, I’m not exactly sure about that statistically– however it makes sense right?